Bianca and North West, 10, have seemingly built a close relationship, being seen holding hands together recently at Kayne’s 46th birthday bash and chatting happily together on a trip to Japan.
An expert revealed to The U.S. Sun that Kim Kardashian’s ‘jealousy’ of Bianca Censori could be ‘motivated by fears she’s taking kids away from her,Credit: Getty
Kanye’s wife Bianca Censori and eldest child North West were spotted walking hand in hand to Kanye’s surprise Birth-Ye partyCredit: BackGrid
While North is clearly a fan of her new stepmom, a source has told Star Magazine that Kim Kardashian is not.
“It gets under Kim’s skin,” they revealed.
Separations are never easy, especially when kids are involved.
According to Natalie Costa, 40, a children’s confidence and parent coach and the founder of the London-based organization Power Thoughts, the feelings of jealousy that Kim is experiencing are very common among separated parents.
“Whilst you naturally want your child to be happy, be safe, and to get along with their new stepparents, it is also normal if feelings of jealousy arise,” Natalie told The U.S. Sun.
“Jealousy comes from a space of fear and worry that something will be taken away from us. It comes from a protective space – wanting to protect what’s important to you,” she added.
Kim, 42, who co-parents her three children with Kayne, has previously opened up about her struggles with him since their divorce, saying that co-parenting is “f**king hard.”
A source close to the Skims founder has revealed that his marriage to Australian model Bianca has thrown “another wrench” in the works.
An insider has previously pointed out that: “This woman [Bianca] has done stuff to look like Kim,” which could explain Kim’s worry and jealousy of Bianca getting close to North.
“Feeling the jealousy is not a bad thing,” said Natalie.
“What is important, is how we respond in these situations, versus getting carried away by our feelings.”
Parenting coach Natalie Costa said what is important, is how we respond in these situations, versus getting carried away by our feelingsCredit: Natalie Costa
According to Natalie, this means that Kim needs to keep her feelings to herself and not project them onto North, or her three other children with Kayne: Saint, Chicago, and Psalm.
“We don’t want to be putting our children in the middle of how we are feeling about the situation.
“This can lead to feelings of guilt or anxiety within our children if they feel that they can’t enjoy the company of their stepparent,” she warned.
“We need to allow these feelings within ourselves and have the support to work through them, but without extending this to our children.”
Kim is not short of support from within her family, so working through her feelings away from her kids shouldn’t be a problem, but as Natalie points out, it’s not always easy.
“Separations are not easy to navigate,” she said.
“There are many elements to get used to, but it is important that you notice and acknowledge how you are feeling, instead of trying to suppress or deny how you feel.”
“Having compassion for the way that you are feeling, can help you to work through them in a healthy way.”
Co-parenting means that, ideally, you put the feelings of your children first and it does appear that Kim is doing just this.
But she may be feeling that her bond with her kids, in particular North, is becoming strained, which is something many separated parents can feel.
However, this doesn’t mean that her kids value or love her any less.
“You are always going to be their parent, and nobody can replace that,” Natalie explained.
“Try to look at the positives of the situation – that your child has another adult in their lives who they have a positive relationship with, versus a negative one, which would be much harder to navigate.”
An element of co-parenting that many parents struggle with is giving up control when their child is with their other parent, something which Kim no doubt also finds tricky.
“We can’t control all aspects of the situation,” Natalie pointed out.
“But we can focus on how we respond, the thoughts we choose to pay attention to, and what we say and do.”
“Kim should focus on what she does have influence over versus what she can’t influence,” she suggested.
“If she feels uncomfortable about something, having a conversation, from a space of collaboration is important.
“The main focus is about the well-being of her children,” the parenting expert said.
“How can we all be on the same team as we work through this challenge, versus being on opposing teams.”
Natalie also advises that Kim goes easy on herself.
She said: “Separations and adjusting to life afterward is not easy.
“Kim needs to give it time to settle and to work through these challenges and having her family and friends to confide in, is really important.”
Natalie advised Kim to keep her feelings to herself and not project them onto her four childrenCredit: KIM KARDASHIAN/INSTAGRAM
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West finalized their divorce in November 2022Credit: Getty
