Dear Black girl, they may call you a traitor for falling in love,” she shared in the clip. “You’ll hope the ones closest will protect you, but you will quickly find out that people don’t protect what they don’t value.

They’ll say you’re too much, too provocative, too boisterous, too outspoken, and in the same breath, tell you that you aren’t enough,” she continued. “They’ll say you deserve the backlash and embarrassment. Because of your Blackness, you should have known better. They’ll even try to tie your value to your net worth. But Black girl, please remember your value lies elsewhere. Your value is deep within your heart.” Describing online hate as a “tumultuous, often one-sided journey,” the 33-year-old encouraged listeners to take the high road in the face of negativity.

Preserve your heart, even when they try to quantify your character and test your boundaries, you do not have to engage,” she said. “You do not have to respond because there is power in your silence.”Kayla added that the “same power” can be used to “silence the noise and the voices that want you to give in to this demoralizing and antiquated narrative.”

“My truth, trauma, and vulnerability is a relatable part of the human experience,” she said. “I know I’m not alone and I want to make sure you know that you’re not either. On days when I feel most inadequate, I have to remind myself that I am, have been, and will always be more than enough.”